Embrace Your Love

These days extra marital affairs are common not only for men, but also for women. In today’s scenario, if at any point of time women feel dissatisfied in their marriage, they don’t just sit back instead they stand up against cruelty or betrayal. Some time ago, the news of a woman cheating on her husband might have aroused many rumors, but not anymore. Exact research results suggest, that women’s infidelity is not appalling in this age, at least 35-40 % of married women cheat because now it’s easy for women to cheat if they are dissatisfied .Why? The answer to this question is simple. Now women are not dependent on their men’s anymore. In today time women has become career conscious and they also have their family and friends support in any given setback. These days we have many ways by which women can seek their choice of men. Women are not just sitting back and crying over something which they can’t get in their existing relationship, they are exploring every opportunity to explore the outside world.

They don’t feel wanted

In most of the cases the reason for women to cheat is that they don’t feel wanted because their men take them for granted. When women realize that their dreams, hopes and desires are not being taken seriously, they end up looking outside of the relationship in the hope of being loved. The most common factor is the lack of healthy communication factor, when women don’t get emotional satisfaction in the relationship, then the element of intimacy goes out of the relationship. If at any point of time women get some attention from someone other than their husbands, they tend to get inclined towards that person. Hence, if women are unhappy, it gets hard for them to resist the temptation from someone else. This is the usual justification you find for infidelity.

Different interests

You no longer share the same interests, when you are not able to enjoy fun activities together and your avocations have diverged, then it becomes difficult to connect. Once you start having fun with someone who has common interests, you start getting inclined towards that person. Once the woman is bored of her usual routine and the passion in the existing relationship is fading away, she starts realizing that her man has changed and he is not the same person you fell in love with. She will not hesitate in exploring new guys in the block; new dating sites on internet have made the job easier for women to get hooked up with any guy they like. Gone are those days when women used to run after their men to give them attention.

Thrill to experiment

They experiment different things outside their marriage for fun. These kinds of women need change every now and then. And they are hard to please! Even if they have the most loving man; still they crave for more and never get satisfied in one relationship.

Revenge burnout

If a woman catches her man cheating on her, she doesn’t feel hesitant of doing the same; for the sake of taking revenge on her man. Some women do it to prove to their men that they are capable of doing the same; some do it to heal the hurt.

Sex issues

If you no longer share the sexual drive or you are not quenched then she could seek romance elsewhere. Physical aspect shapes a strong basis of a relationship and if the man is not willing to sustain the closeness for long then its mere frustration could evoke the woman in extra marital affairs. In the old days people presumed that only men crave for physical satisfaction unlike women who needs more of emotional intimacy than physical one. Not anymore, in today’s modern world women has the same thirst for sexual fulfillment, it is regarded as a salubrious sign in women to fulfill their sexual desires.

Ongoing Conflicts

Relationships are not bed of Roses; it needs to be nurtured over a period of time. Every relationship goes through some tough phase, it all depends on you that how you tackle every issues. Peaceful relationship is very important to sustain, otherwise it could be impossible to carry on. It requires great understanding and patience to realize each others thoughts. If you think that your partner never intend to take initiative in resolving the differences, then some women just give up and don’t give a second thought in establishing an extra marital relationship.

Abusive relationship

Gone are those days when women used to endure the suffering of abusive relationship. In these cases we can’t really blame the women can we?! Constant fights make the relationship weaker by each passing day. Some men often get abusive and physical during quarrels which could be very distressful. This leaves them with no choice but to divagate.

Do you ever wonder why married women cheat on their husbands? If some men presume that they have win over the heart of their women by getting married to them, and afterwards they don’t need to put any effort in sustaining the relationship, then they are completely wrong! Even after getting married every couple needs to nurture the relationship from time to time. The above reasons have dismissed all the myths that women don’t cheat. In today’s western world, women share equal rights in terms of career opportunities and financial soundness. They have the freedom to be independent and have the decision power to choose what’s right and wrong for them. New age women have become Go- Getters, they get what they deserve, irrespective of what their men has to offer them.

Why men cheat is a tricky question that has always been a topic of debate. The reason varies from individual to individual. All men are aware of the fact that they are harming their existing relationship; nevertheless they don’t hesitate to indulge in extra marital affairs. Mostly men blame their partners for not treating them right, other times men do it for their ego boost. Shouldn’t men be responsible for their actions? Research suggests that following are some of the reasons why men cheat. Understanding men can be a difficult job but interesting at the same time. Let’s start off exploring what men have on their mind.

She has changed

It’s a typical trait of men to expect their ladies to stay in shape always. Most men can’t resist young beautiful ladies around them; little do they know that outer beauty is not ever lasting. Men should also look into the mirror and ask themselves that do they look the same the way they used to look 10 years back. Indeed it’s a double standard, instead of being a slob, try to change your attitude and learn how to value inner beauty more than outer beauty of women.
Get a surprise gift for your woman and make up for all the time you have ignored her, try to appreciate her in every way. Acknowledge the fact that without her you won’t be what you are.
If you want your lady to pay attention to her physical appearance then offer her to play some of her favorite sports with you. This way both of you will keep yourself and the time send together will bring you more close. Women should also give special care to keeping themselves attractive, irrespective of your age group.

She nags allot

Indeed nagging can drive anyone away; still this reason can’t be that big that a man can go to the extent of cheating their partner. If women have any matter to be resolved than instead of harping the same string in an annoying manner she can manipulate the mood of her man and talk in a mature level. No doubt those unnecessary arguments can bring differences; hence every couple should sort out the conflicts in a mature way. Conflicts are bound to happen in any kind of relationships it all depends upon you how you actually handle it, if handled in a peaceful way it can actually strengthen your relationship.

A Man’s lust can never take a back seat

It’s a known fact that most men just can’t resist lusting for beautiful women. When they are bored from their usual routine, they will burst out like a hungry lion!

Its just sex no emotional connection

Some married men defend themselves by saying” we still love our wives” at the end of the day we come in their arms so what if we have physical relationships with other women. We never emotionally get involved with any of the woman except our wives. No matter how loving their wives are still many married men cheat. Will you men accept the same from women? Did I hear a big NO?

We don’t get enough attention

After getting married, women get too involved in raising children and then It’s not an easy job to balance professional life with the responsibility of taking care of the family also. Men should take an initiative to share the responsibilities of women so that they can take out some time to spend quality moments with you. After all you should also share an equal amount of responsibilities; no woman is a super woman that you expect her to satisfy everybody.

There is no compatibility

You have started growing apart emotionally. Either of the partners has changed and now has different thought towards the kind of relation they want to have. He has met a woman with whom he can relate in a better way. He no longer finds a comfort level in the existing relationship and ends up getting attracted towards someone with whom he shares compatibility. Women try to make every effort in order to understand their men, make them feel special. Give them quality time; men not only want physical intimacy but also an emotional compatibility.

Fallen out of love

The worst thing which can ever happen in a relationship is when a person falls out of love. But still he stays in the relationship for different reasons other than love. If he thinks breaking the relationship can affect the family peace, if kids are involved then it becomes very difficult to decide whether to move out of the relationship or to stay back to support the family. They feel that if they establish a relationship outside their family’s knowledge then it won’t harm anyone’s feelings.

Challenge in their infidelity

One of the reasons men cheat is they feel that they are clever enough to get away with an extra marital affair, so they treat it as a challenge. They feel they are capable of fooling their partners and living separate lives, which they find it very exciting. Men deceive their women to enjoy the thrill of sneaking around, it gives them the feel of accomplishment and of course they derive physical relationship with the other person to satisfy their lust.

To get revenge

A man will not just sit back if he realizes that his partner cheated on him.

Ego boost

The idea of establishing intimate relationship with multiple women at the same time gives an ego boost to some men. It’s a matter of pride to have the quality to entice any woman they want, not many men realize that the game of fooling your woman can actually end the relationship.

Dull sex life

Research suggests that one of the main reasons for married men to cheat is that they are not satisfied with their sex life. If a man is not satisfied physically with his partner, then chances are that he will have an affair. If you are in a long term relationship or married then after sometime you may loose interest in sex, try exploring different ways of seducing your partner. It requires a little effort to learn new ways of fulfilling your sexual fantasies by sharing each others hidden desires.

Hunt to strive for the best deal

Some men are never content with what they have; they are always looking out for better choices. They are scared of commitments; they can never be attached to one person. No matter how loving and caring their existing partner is still they crave for some one else. They tend to think that they deserve better than what they have, these kinds of men are low in self esteem, possess weak values, and can never be trusted.

There is no one reason for men to cheat, there are all sorts of reasoning men come up with to get away from the blame of betraying their partners. Nevertheless, there can’t be any good reason to defend your actions. It is indeed a very complicated idea to come up with a list of reasons of why men cheat!

Conflicts in relationships will always be there, the only reason of conflicts is the differences in the opinions of every individual. No two individual can think the same all the time, special care is required to analyze the cause of the conflict then only we will be able to resolve it. Hence, before you take a big step in walking out of the relationship it’s advisable to honestly determine the consequences of the conflicts.

Hence for a healthy relationship, it is essential to sort out conflicts in a mature way to keep both the parties content. It requires lot of effort from both the individuals to deal with conflicts in order to maintain a healthy relationship. We can manage conflicts in relationships in a wise way in order to establish a strong bond which will be immensely fulfilling.

Be assertive

You need to maintain your calm while talking to the other person. It’s natural to feel upset or angry in the situation where your concerns are not addressed properly. But if you will get aggressive while discussing the issue then chances is that the other person won’t be interested in listening to your side of story and may get defensive. Hence, it all depends upon the kind of attitude you put in order to resolve the conflict without hurting each other.

Gain control on yourself

Some people get into ugly fights; this can worsen the whole situation. Never hurt anyone physically, this will not only hurt the other persons self esteem but will also make you feel guilty about loosing your temper unnecessarily. An aggressive action like yelling, screaming, hitting, threatening and abusing makes it much harder to resolve the differences. Practice self control by closing your eyes and diverting your mind, count till 10 slowly. If you are finding it difficult to face the other person then you can go for a walk and come back after a while with a calm mind. It’s significant to maintain your state of mind.

Avoid blame games

In most of the cases, people end up blaming each other which can result in victimizing one party all the time. Just stop the blaming game; instead give importance to the emotions they are feeling at that point of time. Say “I Understand “when the other person is expressing their feelings it encourages the other person to be relax and patient. Show respect for each others feelings; don’t interrupt the other person while they are expressing their side of the story. Just keep the communication flow smooth by showing empathy towards each others emotions.

Watch your words carefully

I personally used to find myself regretting of things I say, then I started watching my words before I speak. While resolving a conflict you tend o get upset which can even result in using unkind comments for the other person, which in turn makes the whole situation worse than before. Therefore, I started disciplining myself and started to think before I speak. You need to ask yourself that “what exactly you want to attain by the verbal assaults” Remember words are weapons and it can make or break your relationships. Take responsibility of what you speak instead of defending yourself later by saying” you didn’t mean to say that” or” you misunderstood me”

Equality

During the time of conflict each party should get the equal freedom to express their thoughts. Each party should put in an equal effort to work out thins between each other. Once you create a healthy relationship you feel wanted and committed to each others rights. It is very essential to create an atmosphere of healing in order to recover from the mental distress it has caused. As a result of healing you will have better understanding where both the parties are gratified.

Be honest

It’s very imperative to be honest while resolving a conflict, if you will falsely accuse someone of doing something then it won’t solve any purpose or if you are not being honest towards yourself that you will bring some change in you in order to resolve the conflict. Sooner or later again you will have to face one more conflict. You will end up gaining nothing by wasting your time and energy to resolve the issue. Hence honesty towards each other is an utmost important factor to completely resolve the conflict.

Power of forgiveness

Forgiveness is a powerful way to bring peace, compassion in into your lives. Forgiveness provides a way to heal your hurt feelings, give yourself a chance to forgive others for the mistake they have committed. In certain cases forgiveness is the only way by which you can help yourself and the other person to move on in life with no grudges for anyone. If you realize that you have caused hurt to the other person then put aside your ego and seek forgiveness. Be willing to forget and forgive by putting your resentment aside, once you will realize the importance of forgiveness you will become calmer. It will definitely take you some time to forgive someone as it takes a lot of courage to forget something which has caused you suffering.

Don’t hesitate to Compromise

Be willing to adjust in few situations, in order to reach at a satisfactory solution both parties have to compromise on some areas. If you will stick to the same obstinate attitude of not compromising any bit of your interest then chances are that you won’t be able to reach a conclusion. Ideally, all the parties should compromise in order to resolve the conflict and to reach a win- win solution.

Conflicts in relationships are considered to be a normal sign. If managed well with great care for each others emotion then conflicts can be easily resolved. It actually strengthens the relationship by being concerned about each others concerns and resolving conflicts in a healthy way!