Embrace Your Love

Have you thought of surprising your partner lately? You need to put a little bit of an effort to evoke the passion between you and your partner. There should always be something exciting in a relationship. Marriages often go through ups and downs but it all depends on you that in which sprite you take up the challenges and sort out the differences. Every marriage goes through the boredom period. Are you running out of ideas? Not many couple spends quality time with each other, most of them are busy in setting their career, or housewives are occupied with their kids. It is essential to do nice things for each other to lighten up the relationship, so what are you waiting for? Surprise your love!

Just go through the list of surprises which you should not miss!

• Red roses can never go out of fashion. Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, and birthday gifts are common. Don’t make this as a once in a while affair. Send her flowers when you are away from her. Don’t hesitate to send her/him bunch of red roses when you are away from each other, while touring or while you are at your work place. But don’t write your name let it gets mysterious. Wouldn’t it be fun to play this game!

• Compliment your love the way she takes care of you. Get her something which she has been thinking of buying lately. It adds to the thrill, when you gift your love something when she/he least expects it!

• Many people forget to appreciate little things which matters a lot in a relationship. For example if your wife cooks for you daily then don’t consider it as your partner’s duty towards you, she only does it out of love! You can also surprise her with your cooking skills, ask her to go out for shopping and in the meantime cook any of her favorite dishes!

• Plan a surprise candle night dinner for her before she comes home. And guys don’t forget to wash the dishes on your own! Give your princess a little rest one day!

• One thing in where you can never go wrong is taking your partner out and buying something for her, that would e a surprise for your lady especially when it’s a known fact that guys don’t really like going out for shopping with their ladies!

• Handwritten Love notes do wonders to express your love. You should do it as often as you can. Sneak it inside her purse, write something on the mirror before she goes to take a bath, write something loving on her desktop image etc.

• Record a song for her in your own voice. Now don’t feel shy! if you think that you suck at singing! She will just like the thought behind you singing a song especially for her.

• Give her an aromatic massage whenever you see her exhausted. No lady can resist a tempting massage from someone she loves! It shows that you realize they had a rough day.
• Surprise her at her workplace during the lunch hrs and take her out for lunch.

• Present a photo frame where you can merge all your favorites times which you spent together. You can even make a photo frame of her sweet childhood pictures. That will be a sweet gesture.

• Get tickets of her favorite show or any other extravaganza fun which she enjoys a lot.

• While packing his lunch put his favorite chocolate bar on top of it.

• Just disappear at night all of a sudden making her more curious, if she calls out of curiosity then don’t pick her call. Grab some chips, cookies and a bottle of champagne before you leave. Go on your terrace, light some candles around and then call her over.

• If you are working and your partner is taking care of the home and kids then never assume that she is just having a blast by just sitting at home. Don’t be a thankless person by just ignoring the fact that it takes a lot of effort to handle kids and the household stuff. Try to help her as much as you can without being asked.

• The list can go on and on. You can always do things for her which she least expects from you like washing dishes, doing some of her daily routine stuff keeping your lawn nice. Your partner will really appreciate you lending her a helping hand without you being asked to do!

When you plan something, try to make it as unique and an exciting surprise as you can. The curiosity factor makes it even more exhilarating, it enlighten up the feel of love and romance with your partner. So let’s plan a distinctive surprise for your love which will make her fall in love with you all over again!

People often get confused between infatuation and love, Is it infatuation or love?
To put it simple infatuation is an instant attraction towards that person. On the other side love is something which grows slowly and has a strong root to survive for a lifetime, whereas infatuation is for a short period.

I remember it clearly when I fell for this guy I met at a new years party, he literally took my breath away. I know it sounds like a typically movie script but this is exactly what happened to me. He was my friend’s cousin, so we were introduced and had few drinks together. He totally drove me crazy with his charismatic way, all through the night I was thinking about him! I desperately wanted him to ask for my phone number Ahh! But he never did. In the coming few days I was totally lost in him, after few days I got a call from him. And that was what I was desperately waiting for!!!! He called me over for a weekend party; obviously I couldn’t refuse and accepted the invitation. I was so excited that day and a bit nervous too, I wanted to look the best for him so I went out and picked up a sexy outfit! I was bit anxious to meet him again thinking will he like me in my new outfit or not! Finally I walked into the party hall and looked around for him. As I curiously scanned the hall, he noticed me and gave a sweet smile!!!!

After few days of knowing each other we started going out very often. One fine day he proposed me and surprisingly I didn’t feel that ecstatic, I thought it was a very strange of me because of the way I was crazy about him all through the time. I didn’t know what to say to him, so I just smiled. In a way we started dating each other, but slowly and gradually I was feeling confused about my feelings towards him. There were many doubts in my mind about my feelings. There were some unanswered questions in my mind that is it true love or infatuation? ; Once I analyzed my feelings towards him I was sure that this was not love.

• I was not looking forward to marry him in the near future.I never felt the connection to share my feelings with him
• The love making part was not intense because of the very fact that I never felt a sense of belongingness towards him.
• Initially all I felt it was an instant desire to meet him again but later that feeling disappeared with unanswered questions.

Needless to say, sometimes it gets hard to judge your emotions, when you meet someone new there are so many new things to explore about each other. Everything looks exciting but over a period of time boredom hits you. Feelings associated with infatuation doesn’t last for long, there is more of physical attraction. But when you are in love you never get bored of each others company, you just die to be in each others arms at the end of a hectic day. Love has a strong sense of attachment; the feelings are more intense and everlasting. In love you are genuinely happy but in infatuation your happiness fades away slowly. You share a comfort zone with the person you are in love with, which is not the same case when you are infatuated. You feel reluctant to open up wondering whether he will understand you or not. In love you are very sure of the sense of understanding you have with the person.

Love is nurtured with self respect and care for each other but in infatuation you are more inclined towards fulfilling your own fantasies and expectations. Real love accepts the person whole heartedly even with their flaws, while in infatuation you want to change the person according to your desires ad wants. Love gives a feeling of security and a sense of completeness which makes you feel loved; it’s very fulfilling to just walk down the road holding each others hand. Infatuation is based on lust which fades away with time. When you are in love you motivate the other person to progress in life and feel happy with their achievements but in infatuation there is a sense of jealousy. The level of commitment is more when you love someone you don’t fear of anything, but in infatuation you run away from commitments because you are not really confident of spending your life with that person.

Unfortunately, still people get confused in love and infatuation and end up making the wrong decision which later end up in break ups. Hence we need to ponder allot before taking a life changing step of getting married to someone. Be clear in your heart about your emotions, there should be clarity of your feelings and emotions towards that person. Don’t take any step in haste!