When Grandparents are Denied

It happens.  A break down between a parent and their own child can result in separation, not only from their child, but from their grandchildren too.  This can be very difficult for the grandparents, and for the grandchild too.  The relationship between Grandparents and Grandchildren, is usually healthy and positive for both.  So when is it right to deny access, to a grandchild?  That depends greatly on individual circumstances.  There are times when a parent has excellent and justifiable reasons, as to why they’ve made the decision to exclude a grandparent, or grandparents.  Maybe there are worries of abuse, based on a parent’s own experiences as a child.  Why would anyone subject a child to the possibility of the same?

Time to Talk

Sometimes it may be about control.  They may feel the grandparent’s are constantly undermining their own efforts to raise their child.  In this case, reconciliation is usually on the cards, and the denial of access brief.  Despite that, the question should still be asked.  Is it right to ’punish’ the grandparent, using the grandchild as the whip?  After all, this kind of strategy will, more likely, punish the grandchild too.  Even if the parent tried to explain why, is that child really capable of understanding such complex, ‘adult’ concerns?  Are their actions really justified?  It’s probably far more productive for both parties to sit down and try to work things out.

Resolution

Falling out can create so much conflict, sometimes un-necessary conflict.  For everyone concerned, Parents, Grandchildren, grandparents, friends, the whole family and close social circle can become divided and imbalanced.  Maybe it has come about because of difficult divorce, maybe they are not the paternal or maternal Grandparents.  Separating grandparents and Grandchildren can be very stressful for them both, especially when their relationship has always been close.  Usually, people can find a resolution, if they are willing to look for one.