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Domestic violence usually happens to gain control over another person. People who are being emotionally exploited don’t consider it as victims of abuse. And at the same time those people who abuse don’t look at themselves as abusers. They perceive this as a way to handle a conflict.
Domestic violence in all its forms is the kind of harassment which should not happen to anyone. No matter how bad the circumstances are, still we can’t ignore the fact that nobody has the right to cause you physically or emotionally hurt. You don’t deserve to be exploited you are not responsible for the whole chaos. The only person who is responsible is The Oppressor!
We all are aware of the percentage of domestic violence in this world. Don’t run away from the real situation that is actually hurting you badly. Try to look around to get some professional help which will help you in planning ways to overcome domestic violence.
Have you lived with any kind abuse in your life? Has it happened once or very often? Even if it has happened once that doesn’t mean that you will let it happen all over again to you.
Have you seen anyone going through any kind of domestic violence (friend, colleague, children, and family members)? If they don’t have courage to fight it out on their own. Stand up for their right and provide them support.
Here we will provide you some helpful information to support you, so that you can plan for your safety.

Examples of abuse include:

Different forms of Abuses:

• Physical Abuse - Hurting badly, assaulting you.
• Sexual Abuse - Forcing sexual relationship
• Emotional Abuse - Using abusive language, insulting in public, not giving enough freedom to live in a decent way.
• Financial Abuse - Forcibly taking away all the money, stealing your money.

Are you going through any of the following abuses?

• Jealousy, suspicion - Your partner is jealous of your success, stops you to socialize with some people.
• Public let down - Your partner abuses you or insults you in public causing you deep emotional distress.
• Forceful relationship - Threatening you to be in a relationship without your heart or willingness.

Common Myths of Domestic Violence

• In today’s modern world Domestic violence can’t happen or doesn’t happen.
• Domestic violence just happens to the poor section of the society, and to uneducated people.
• Some people think that domestic violence only happens due to excessive Alcohol intake, drug use, mental stress but it’s wrong.
• Some people make an excuse that they are going through bad phase that is why they can’t control themselves. ITS WRONG!
• Domestic violence can only happen between husband and wife.
• Everything looks fine, when you want to help a domestic violence victim but you are hesitant because you see them living together even after knowing that there is something wrong between them. You tend to presume that everything must be fine between them. But in reality there are some reasons why people don’t have the courage to walk out of the relation.

WHY CANT YOU STAND UP FOR YOUR RIGHT?

• You don’t want the society to know your personal problems.
• You don’t want to expose your sexuality. In case of lesbians, gays!
• If you are elder you don’t have required support to stand against the person on whom you are dependent.
• May be you feel ashamed and insecured of the society’s reaction?
• You are a foreigner, scared of being deported back.
• Your Family Tradition, Religious Laws doesn’t support you.
• Fear of breakup which can hurt children. If the woman is not financially sound and she thinks that she won’t be able to support her children’s education and well being.

EMOTIONAL DAMAGE TO THE CHILDREN

• Children also suffer from domestic violence between their parents. Children do get harmed just by encountering and overhearing the violence between their parents. No matter they are part of the violence or not they still get emotionally hurt which leads to further insecurities in their lives.
• Researchers suggest that many children with this kind of domestic violence end up becoming criminals.
• They become violent in later stages of their youth. They tend to get cruel to the world because they also didn’t get the kind of love and care from anyone.
• Children living in these kind of circumstances where there is screaming, yelling and hitting can be very dangerous for their growth. They don’t even know how they can help their parents to resolve their conflict.
• They have trouble sleeping peacefully.
• They have trouble in getting along with their friends in school. They are unable to pay attention to their studies which leads to poor grades.
• They feel sad, scared all the time.
• They lack self confidence and live in isolation.

Ways to give a safer environment for your children

• Don’t allow them to get in between the fight.
• Teach your children to call 911 and how to provide location of your residence.
• If the circumstances between you and your partner are uncontrollable for some period, then don’t hesitate to admit them in a hostel. And when you think the situation is calmed down you can get them back anytime. We do know it requires lot of effort but it’s always better to keep your children away from any domestic violence which can harm their mental peace.

WAYS TO HANDLE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Keep the following points in mind
• Contact any of the domestic violence help-line. They will provide you safe environment for you and your children.
• Try to film the whole incident secretly with a webcam. This will help you get a strong live proof to charge your abuser. Accumulate all the documents, if you have received any threatening letters or mails that can also help you to prove your case
• Don’t hide anything from the Police. Explain every incident which happened between you and your partner.
• Show your injuries. Explain the police that how many times it has happened in the past.
• Get your friends, family’s support.
• Be aware of the existing agencies which help people who are the victims of Domestic Violence.They provide counseling, financial support, therapy for domestic abuse victim’s .This can help you in coping up with the situation. Enroll to any self defense training program that focuses on training women to protect themselves from any kind of physical violence. Many companies do take care of your basic needs, so don’t be dependent on the abuser because you don’t have anywhere to go.
• Protect your identity on net, as there are many people who get targeted through online information they provide not knowing that it’s not safe to disclose your personal details to strangers. Cancel all your existing bank accounts, credit cards, particularly the one which you shared with your abuser!