People often get confused between infatuation and love, Is it infatuation or love?
To put it simple infatuation is an instant attraction towards that person. On the other side love is something which grows slowly and has a strong root to survive for a lifetime, whereas infatuation is for a short period.

I remember it clearly when I fell for this guy I met at a new years party, he literally took my breath away. I know it sounds like a typically movie script but this is exactly what happened to me. He was my friend’s cousin, so we were introduced and had few drinks together. He totally drove me crazy with his charismatic way, all through the night I was thinking about him! I desperately wanted him to ask for my phone number Ahh! But he never did. In the coming few days I was totally lost in him, after few days I got a call from him. And that was what I was desperately waiting for!!!! He called me over for a weekend party; obviously I couldn’t refuse and accepted the invitation. I was so excited that day and a bit nervous too, I wanted to look the best for him so I went out and picked up a sexy outfit! I was bit anxious to meet him again thinking will he like me in my new outfit or not! Finally I walked into the party hall and looked around for him. As I curiously scanned the hall, he noticed me and gave a sweet smile!!!!

After few days of knowing each other we started going out very often. One fine day he proposed me and surprisingly I didn’t feel that ecstatic, I thought it was a very strange of me because of the way I was crazy about him all through the time. I didn’t know what to say to him, so I just smiled. In a way we started dating each other, but slowly and gradually I was feeling confused about my feelings towards him. There were many doubts in my mind about my feelings. There were some unanswered questions in my mind that is it true love or infatuation? ; Once I analyzed my feelings towards him I was sure that this was not love.

• I was not looking forward to marry him in the near future.I never felt the connection to share my feelings with him
• The love making part was not intense because of the very fact that I never felt a sense of belongingness towards him.
• Initially all I felt it was an instant desire to meet him again but later that feeling disappeared with unanswered questions.

Needless to say, sometimes it gets hard to judge your emotions, when you meet someone new there are so many new things to explore about each other. Everything looks exciting but over a period of time boredom hits you. Feelings associated with infatuation doesn’t last for long, there is more of physical attraction. But when you are in love you never get bored of each others company, you just die to be in each others arms at the end of a hectic day. Love has a strong sense of attachment; the feelings are more intense and everlasting. In love you are genuinely happy but in infatuation your happiness fades away slowly. You share a comfort zone with the person you are in love with, which is not the same case when you are infatuated. You feel reluctant to open up wondering whether he will understand you or not. In love you are very sure of the sense of understanding you have with the person.

Love is nurtured with self respect and care for each other but in infatuation you are more inclined towards fulfilling your own fantasies and expectations. Real love accepts the person whole heartedly even with their flaws, while in infatuation you want to change the person according to your desires ad wants. Love gives a feeling of security and a sense of completeness which makes you feel loved; it’s very fulfilling to just walk down the road holding each others hand. Infatuation is based on lust which fades away with time. When you are in love you motivate the other person to progress in life and feel happy with their achievements but in infatuation there is a sense of jealousy. The level of commitment is more when you love someone you don’t fear of anything, but in infatuation you run away from commitments because you are not really confident of spending your life with that person.

Unfortunately, still people get confused in love and infatuation and end up making the wrong decision which later end up in break ups. Hence we need to ponder allot before taking a life changing step of getting married to someone. Be clear in your heart about your emotions, there should be clarity of your feelings and emotions towards that person. Don’t take any step in haste!