When did you last feel an expression of intimacy between you and your partner?
Is your flame of love dying away? After few years of living with each other couples routine becomes the same. It becomes essential to bring a sense of intimacy in your relationship to keep the flame of your love alive. Many lovers just wait for occasions like valentine, anniversaries to cultivate the feel of romance. Mostly couples just seem to lose the flavor of romance, it does not happen always but we do accept that it does happen sometimes. Well, relationships that were full of excitement and love can end up becoming dull and in some cases it can cause the relationship to end. Some research suggests that majority of the marriages fail because of financial difficulties but problems with sex and intimacy is increasing too.

Things you can do to spice up your sex life

• Create a mutual respect for each other. Many partners think that they don’t get enough respect from their partners. Research suggests that in most of the relationships one or both the partners think themselves as superior than the other partner. Try to appreciate each others achievements, encourage them in whichever way you can. Feelings are the most important thing in any relationships. If you gain your partners trust and love then romance will always be there in your relationship. If there are some tensions between couples then it becomes hard to create a passionate relationship.
• Remember all your crazy times which you spent while dating each other, but as we move in a relationship and get married we feel bounded by some additional responsibilities like to pay our bills, take care of kids and are always occupied in our jobs. Most of us think that the time to have thrill in a relationship is gone and now they have become mature. But it’s not true at all; Couple does resist change particularly an intimate change. Physical and emotional intimacy for both men and women is important, let’s share some of the tricks which you can try.
• Those couples who have been together for a long time feel that their sex life has become dull. You tend to feel worn out after coming back from your job, handling kids and then doing your usual household work. It becomes very boring and then you end up ignoring the physical intimacy with your partner. Rejuvenate your life style by doing exciting things, plan a day out of your house; spend an evening or night in a hotel. It doesn’t have to be an expensive spot; the idea is to go away from your home for a change. Going back to all the places where you started dating, where you shared your first kiss.
• Give your partner an erotic massage. It’s a fun and an exciting way to pamper your partner; this trick doesn’t fail, provided you give a sensual touch to it. The most important thing in creating the romance is the touch. Try giving your man a sensual massage, using some wonderful smelling oil; don’t forget to light candles all around. Make his mood by kissing him all over his body.
• Thinking of some sensual treats? Try feeding strawberries, chocolates, grapes or her favorite ice-cream flavor. Make the best use of your fingers! Some kinds of food have great quality to enhance your sex desire and provide a calming effect. So what are you waiting for? Don’t forget to include red wine and champagne.
• Take a shower together. Take some time to explore your partner’s body in the bath tub to caress each other; touch is the great way to feel loved. Have sex in the shower or if you want or you can prolong your lovemaking. Don’t forget to light candles all around and play soft music in the background.
• Share your sensual fantasies and try to fulfill each others hidden sexual desires. Explore erotic stories, find out new sex positions. Don’t hesitate to communicate with your partner about how you want to be loved and touched. Be creative in bed; don’t always stick to the same traditional ways of sex. There are number of sex books which are totally dedicated on exploring sex, be open to your partner about trying some new style of lovemaking. Change the usual old routine of having sex at night, try new sex positions at different places.
• Every men and women crave for different intimate desires , a man’s idea could be to share his choice of music for long hrs with a can of bear .Don’t be reluctant to share his interests, you just need to plan it in a way to turn the whole evening of lounging around into a romantic night. You can ask him to play some of his favorite romantic number and then both of you can embrace each other with lots of kisses. Right kind of music has a great power to relax and create the right kind of mood.
• Change your bed room setting; add some soothing colors to your bedroom, a soft bed, gentle bed sheet, comfortable couch or some passionate color curtains. Don’t forget to have lamp shades to set your mood. You don’t have to spend a lot of money on giving a new look to your bedroom; you can easily spray some of his/her favorite perfume in the room and spread some rose petals on the bed. It all depends upon how much you know your partners taste, accordingly you can choose the best.
• If you have recently started dating .Always use protection, make sure you are protected from HIV Aids or any other sexual transmitted diseases
• Eat a healthy diet and keep your body and mind fit by exercising. Research suggests that those people who are fit enjoy sex more. Try working out together, share some sports together.
• If you have sexual problems then communicate with your partner. People who face sexual problems end up avoiding sex, but these problems can be treated easily. These days large number of people are coming forward and discussing their sexual problems.



• Try role playing, use your imaginations and be someone you always wanted to be. So women take out your sexy lingerie’s and guys get ready for some action!
• Just being loved and cared can rekindle the romance; only a little bit of effort is required to create that flair in your marriage. Talk with your partner, share your interests and enjoy your own way of romancing with your partner. Little moments bring joy to your marriage like when you laugh and tease each other in bed or just caress your partner. Sexuality is a great gift in a marriage, only if it is nurtured over a period of time!